Thursday, April 2, 2009

Snip, Snip, Snip

People say that you can never have too many friends. On Facebook, everyone wants to be friends with everyone. The goal is to become "friends" with as many people as possible.

One thing I've learned as I get older is that it's OK to outgrow friends. We age, we meet new people, our tastes and interests change, we get married and we simply outgrow our old friends.

So, my question is, how do you know when it's time to breakoff old friendships that aren't fulfilling and worthwhile? I like the analogy of "snipping people off of your tree." Here's the list i've made of determining when it's time to prune the tree and snip off the old branches (i'd also like to add that I don't have an open door policy when it comes to friends. Once you're snipped, you're snipped. So, I really do think long and hard before I take out my shears):

Snip #1 - When the friendship is a One-Way street
I learned that the friendship is not worth it when you're the only one doing all the phone calling, emailing, remembering to send birthday cards, etc.

Snip #2 - Lack of respect
Chances are, if your "friends" treat you with a lack of respect, they'll continue to do so the longer you stay with them.

Snip #3 - They're just simply annoying
I seem to attract a lot of annoying people. I initially want to be friends with them, but, they either turn out too loud, too self-absorbed, or too dependent on the friendship.

Snip #4 - They're Unreliable & are full of excuses
Having a friend who's unreliable should be added to my list of pet peeves.

Snip #5 - When you go out, they NEVER bring their wallet
Or, how's about this --when the bill comes, they're either slow to pull out their wallets thinking that you'll take care of it or, they leave enough money to only cover their portion (tax & tip not included).

Snip #6 - They're racist
I'm totally cool with having friends who differ on religion or politics, but call me a derogatory name and I'll snip you off so fast, you won't even know what hit you.

Snip #7 - They steal from you
This needs no explanation.

1 comment:

ilma said...

Jen! Jen! Jen! why did we lose touch?